May 28, 2013

Blog of the Month: May: No one is in charge of your happiness, except you

No one is in charge of your happiness, except you
by Keith

We are all different, unique in the most beautiful of ways!! Yet, the message inscribed within us from birth and repeated over and over again is one and the same - that of unjustified guilt and fear. For example, we all have different talents and interests. Hence, naturally different people express themselves in different ways and excel in different fields. Nonetheless, we're expected to do equally well in all academic subjects, whilst being tested solely in one manner. We feel guilty when we don't succeed this mammoth task, for we're told that it's because we're not committed enough. Similarly, we're told that we're sinners, simply by birth. We feel awful for such guilt, and make it hard on ourselves in order to make amends so as to alleviate the guilt of not being good enough.

We can do anything we desire in our lives, anything that excites us and makes us itch, and become good enough at it as to also earn a living from it. Instead, we're guided to give it all up for an ‘8 to 5’ secure job we don’t like, for money. So, we do a job we don't like doing in order to earn enough money to live a life where living is doing a job we do not like doing. If we stop doing so however, we're injected with a fear of the future by those around us, advising us that if we do not work for money, we would not be able to buy more. Thus, perpetuating the belief that having more is what makes us happy, rather than doing that which fulfills us. In addition, as insider Roseanne Barr herself explains, institutions such as Hollywood maintain cultures of sexism and genderism in place by continually feeding it to the media, making up good money out of it. At the same time, we’re conditioned to be overrun by the fear of what others would think of us should we not subscribe to the roles, identity, or looks which Hollywood advocates.

 Charles de Lint explains that, "no one else sees the world the way you do, no one else can tell the stories that you have to tell", apart from you. Should each one of us write a couple of paragraphs on what ‘joy’ truly means to us, no other answer would be an exact copy of yours, you are THAT unique!!  Tune into yourself, as Rumi stated, "let yourself be silently drawn by the strange pull of what you really love, it will not lead you astray". The more we love our own decisions, the less we require others to love them. Those who will judge us instead of understand, do not define who we are, their act only defines who they are. There’s no one to fight, only the fear and guilt instilled within which hold us from being our true Self.

For those interested, below I share a link to the story of Balpreet Kaur, in the hopes that she is of inspiration to you as she was to me.

May 16, 2013

Press Statement on the International Day Against Homophobia and Transphobia

Today, the 17th May, We Are: The University of Malta LGBTQQI Organisation is marking the International Day Against Homophobia and Transphobia (IDAHO).
We Are has released a series of posters which show that anyone can stand against homophobia and transphobia. The posters depict students, lecturers, parents, and activists speaking out against homophobia, biphobia and transphobia.  The posters share positive messages about love and include slogans such as:  “You don’t have to be gay to support the cause”, “Our children’s sexuality doesn’t stop us from loving them unconditionally” and “Don’t let anyone define who you are, just be yourself”.
We Are will also be giving out carnations in the annual Flowers of Friendship event.  We’ll be handing out flowers at Giovanni Curmi Higher Secondary School, at Junior College, and at the University of Malta.  The action symbolizes our willingness to create bridges  and build dialogue with students about the importance of accepting people just the way they are, and the negative effects of homophobic and transphobic language and behaviour.   We are happy about the positive support received from the principals of Junior College and Giovanni Curmi Higher Secondary School and hope both sixth forms will continue to strive towards more inclusive and supportive environments for their students.
Gaby Gauci, Vice President of We Are says “we have taken positive steps this year towards some real change and have received great feedback in this respect.  Our campaign generated a lot of interest and is helping to raise awareness.  It’s nice to see parents being supportive, as well as straight friends and allies.”
Brenda Cutajar, Events Officer for We Are adds “On Sunday we organized a sports event to combat homophobia in sports. Unfortunately sports is one environment which is very hostile to LGBTQQI people and through our friendly sports events, which are open to all, we try to create a space where anyone can play sports and not feel pressured.”

May 4, 2013

IDAHO - International Day Against Homophobia and Transphobia

IDAHO is celebrated worldwide on the 17th of May. 
At We Are we have a number of events in store for the week from 12th to 17th May. 
If you require further information please don't hesitate to contact us click here for details!